Though we hadn’t yet heard each other’s voices or met in person, the feelings we had for each other in that first week were palpable, each vibration of our phones catapulting them to new heights and setting my little hopeless romantic heart ablaze.We even friended each other on Facebook (and confessed to stalking each other, too). My friends scoffed at how I could possibly think so much of a man who I hadn’t even seen in the flesh yet.It was the beginning of any modern love story: On a random Thursday afternoon, we both swiped right on Tinder. When he messaged me, he said I look like someone who has her life together, which was “refreshing.” And in response to the note in my profile that says I’d prefer someone who’s taller than 5’9″, he told me he was 6’3″. So we exchanged numbers, solidified a date for the following Friday and began to text — every single day.
I hastily paid the driver and opened the door, my mind flooding with apprehensive thoughts.Dating does require effort, but if you already have to work at dating someone, you’ve got issues. As I said in my last post on Future Faking and Fast Forwarding, if you can’t handle the emotional consequences of making mistakes or being disappointed, aside from slowing down and rolling back your level of investment, I would address these areas so that you can date with a reasonable level of confidence and not feel like it’s a ride or die situation.I’m not saying that there might not be a hiccup here or there, but if you start dating someone and you’re already feeling like you have to ‘work’ at a relationship you don’t have, the rot will set in fast. Our job when we date, aside from hopefully enjoying ourselves, is to work out what and who we’re dealing with before we make a commitment to have an exclusive relationship and before we feel safe enough to put both feet in and invest ourselves. Manage your insecurities, address any limiting beliefs, and don’t make dating a vocation.It’s your job to do the discovery work and you have to prepare yourself that sometimes you’ll make discoveries that mean you have to opt out. Yeah it’s a pain in the arse, but it’s better than the pain that comes with detracting from yourself or pursuing something past its sell by date.
Dating 6 weeks expectations
) and an interest in healthy living (with a perfectly crooked smile and symmetrical face.And the more we talked, the more we discovered we had in common: a fear of purposelessness, a love for comedy and rap music, an interest in politics, an aversion to organized religion and a thirst for knowledge about the meaning of life.People were sitting on stools that lined the entire perimeter, drinking and laughing carelessly and animatedly — a stark contrast to the quiet anxiety violently boiling in my gut.I inched further inside and stood on my tiptoes to peer around for any sign of him, for any version of the photos I’d been fantasizing about for the past week, for the kind of guy who looked like he’d be into intense daily 12-hour-long conversations with someone he’d never met before. He smiled at me, and I approached him like a mosquito heading toward a bright, white lamp.“Hey,” I said. For another week, we cooed about how we each surpassed the high expectations we’d had for each other before meeting in person.Maybe this is what scares me about some of the stories I hear – I know that dating can be tough, especially if you’re doing it online.
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